Tọlá Belva
Writer, poet, and a butterfly in her 𝘴𝘰𝘧𝘵 era.
Category: Notes
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Life moves forward, sometimes so quickly that we don’t even realize how much time has passed since we last spoke to certain people. The ones who once filled our days with laughter, who supported us when we stumbled, who celebrated our victories as if they were their own. The ones we thought we’d never lose…
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Back in 2008, in my second year of college, I had a t-shirt with the words “Haters gon’ hate, potatoes gon’ potate, alligators gon’ alligate” printed across it. What started as a funny phrase quickly became an inside joke among me and my friends. It rolled off our tongues effortlessly, like one of those phrases that just…
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You’ve finally done it. You’ve made the difficult but necessary decision to cut ties with someone toxic in your life. It might have been a spouse, a friend, a colleague, or even a family member. And now, here you are—standing on the other side. But it still feels surreal, doesn’t it? Every so often, you…
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While scrolling through Instagram on my lunch break, I stumbled upon a post by Dasha Kennedy, founder of thebrokeblackgirl.com. Her words hit home. Dasha’s message is a reminder that we don’t have to conform to society’s rigid deadlines. Instead, we can shift our focus from fixed deadlines to flexible timelines. Her insight prompted me to…
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I recently bought a glass pot on Amazon, one of those sleek, transparent ones that lets you see everything bubbling and brewing inside. Today, I decided to use it for the first time. As someone who loves coffee, I’ll admit it’s been a bittersweet journey transitioning away from it. Acid reflux has a way of…
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The other day, while sitting in a cozy coffee shop, sipping some chai tea, my attention was drawn to a quote on the wall. It was by Diane Von Furstenberg, and it read: “You know, there’s a thing about the woman across the room. You see the woman across the room, you think, ‘She’s so…
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Comparison is a natural part of human nature. We look at the world around us, observe others, and inevitably measure ourselves against them. In the age of social media, where the highlight reels of people’s lives are constantly on display, this tendency can easily spiral into a cycle of envy and self-doubt. But what if…
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There are moments in life when doubt creeps in and makes you question your worth. In those times, it’s easy to forget one fundamental truth: you are extraordinary, not by accident but by design. Like a masterpiece, your value isn’t determined by perfection but by the richness of your story. The trials you’ve faced, the…
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The world often glorifies the extraordinary—filled with stories of grand achievements, viral moments, and lives that seem larger than life. These narratives dominate our screens and conversations, leaving many of us wondering if our quieter, simpler lives are somehow less valuable. But the truth is, the beauty of life often lies not in the extraordinary…
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In the quiet of my soul, a gentle truth whispers: I am God’s sweetheart. This simple yet profound statement is an anchor in a world that often tries to redefine who I am. To be God’s sweetheart means being cherished, loved beyond comprehension, and held in the tender hands of a Creator who shaped me…
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